My son, lend me your ears, the kind of wife you marry would determine the kind of life you’d have after marriage. I mean, if you’re a happy single man and you marry hell as a wife, your life will be in hell. To buttress my point, remember what Shakespeare said, “A bad marriage will make you a philosopher”. Take your time to marry right so you don’t end up in a bad marriage. Here are the few things you should consider.
1. Not all beautiful women are ‘beautiful’ wives Does that sound strange? Beauty doesn’t make
a woman a good wife. There are many beautiful women that are bad wives. Don’t dwell on her beauty, look beyond her container to see what she’s made of. Beauty will fade but her virtues and innate potentials would outlive her beauty.
2. You can’t know the right woman if you lean on your understanding Most of you guys think you can know the right woman to marry by adopting all the ‘means’ you know. Likes of catching her young, becoming her friend cannot help you if you neglect the place of God . Only God who knows the right person can lead you to the right woman if you wouldn’t lean on your understanding.
3. Don’t be carried away by a woman’s personality let God lead you That she can sing, she’s nice, caring and all those good personalities that women have isn’t still good enough to make her your suitable help meet. You may not be a perfect blend for her if you marry her personality. Don’t be carried away or follow the philosophical teachings regarding marriage. Going for what you want isn’t enough to guarantee you the right spouse. Relax! Be calm and let God take the lead.
4. You need patience to live with a woman, love is not enough Do you think I would have being able to stay this long with your mother without patience? One characteristics of love is patience. The love many of you profess is impatient. No matter how you’d describe her beauty or personality,
without patience, you can’t live peacefully and happily with her. It is not everything a woman says that you should react to and it’s not everything she reacts to that would make you loose your mind.
Women have vocal strength but as a man, you must have emotional stability to absorb it including her weaknesses. There are times we fight, quarrel, have misunderstandings and sometimes I asked myself “Why did I marry her?” But the God factor, love and patience held us together.
5. It’s only a man that can leave to cleave to his wife, boys can’t There’s a big difference between a man and a boy. Boys play, they become players but men ‘mean’ business and they become real men. Boys are tied to their mother’s apron, playful mentality and display acts of irresponsibility.They’re not strong enough to make decisions for themselves and be responsible for their actions. Grow to be a man. Don’t move with ‘boys’ but learn from real men. Real men care for their wives but boys care for themselves. Once you’re married, cleave to your wife and don’t cling to any woman – your mother or female friends.
6. Your relationship can only work as long as you’re willing to make it work Marriage is like a house, it takes two to build it. You must do the things that would make you build your house firmly such as having a good foundation (God), love, patience, wisdom, understanding and so on. If you’re not willing to have a successful marriage, a magic wand won’t make it successful. Do your best to make it successful despite any challenges that would come your way. There are no exit route in marriage, once you’re in it, only death can do you part. So, take your time to marry right and let God guide you before you make any move.
7. Be a man A man is not defined by the six pack abs he has on his chest or by the sexual strength he has. A man is known by His major source of influence.
– God.Be spiritually connected to God so you can lead your wife and she’ll be able to look up to you.
Never wish your wife to be more spiritually sound than you, you’ll only be relegating your
spiritual position. Get a good source of income. Be emotionally stable and be mentally balanced. It takes a woman to build a home and it takes wisdom for the man to protect the builder. It’s never difficult to live with a woman if you marry the right one. You cannot love the wrong woman and would expect to have a successful relationship. Work on yourself and ensure that you have a good relationship with God, it’ll help you so much in life. Don’t trivialize these truth, keep it in your right hand and also share with your friends.
love is not enough Do you think I would have being able to stay this long with your mother without patience?
One characteristics of love is patience. The love many of you profess is impatient. No matter
how you’d describe her beauty or personality, without patience, you can’t live peacefully and happily with her. It is not everything a woman says that you should react to and it’s not everything she
reacts to that would make you loose your mind. Women have vocal strength but as a man, you must have emotional stability to absorb it including her weaknesses. There are times we fight, quarrel, have misunderstandings and sometimes I asked myself “Why did I marry her?” But the God factor, love and patience held us together.
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