Saturday, 15 August 2015

Wonders shall never end; Makama babe poison herself due to heartbreak…

In the late evening of a noisy Makama hostel, a student of UNILAG allegedly drank dettol (antiseptic soap) because her boyfriend broke up with her..
According to sources, the poor girl cried all day after she was jilted by her boyfriend, her friends tried to console her but she did not heed and out of frustration her friends jokingly told her to kill her self if she cannot do without the supposed boyfriend, surprisingly she took the joke serious and decided to drink dettol (antiseptic) without anyone’s knowledge, later that night she was having a severe pain around her chest which attracted necessary attention, then she was given red oil and she vomited like 3times before she was calm again then she was rushed to the health Centre..Things we do for love, I can only hope she gets better and also wish her a quick recovery…
My Thought: Wetin dey do youngsters of our age gan na, imagine because of one mumu guy one beautiful girl that might have being wooed by another guy if not for the availability of dettol, wasted herself just because he’s no longer interested in the colour of her undies…I guess it because of too much American movies… God dey sha. Peace out.

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Monday, 10 August 2015

Foster Family- The Other Family, by shellz

I know a lot of people will be confused and perplexed about the choice topic for today. ‘Foster family?’ what the hell does that even mean? The generally accepted definition for foster family has to do with government care. It means that the government of a country takes a child away from their parent, either because they are in jail or because they are assumed to be unfit to take care of their children. After taking the child away, the child is then placed in foster care meaning that he or she is given to a supposed better family to be taken care of until the parent is once again in a position to do so.
In this case however, the foster family in question is mine. And no, I wasn’t taken away from my parents at any stage. Besides I have lived in Nigeria all my life and I don’t think we operate that system in our country, yet. I have a foster family because of the travelling nature of my parents. I gave them the name foster parents when my mom first started to travel out of the country really often. They would step in to take care of my siblings and I.
Of course they were in my life before my mum started travelling. They became a part of my life in JSS1-3rd term and mom started travelling SSS1-2nd term. They had become a concrete part of my life even before they got the title foster parents. When we went out, they would introduce me as their daughter especially to people they are just meeting. The relationship that connected us was theirs and their pastor/theirs and their love for me.
We became so close that I would spend the weekends during my holidays back from school at their house and their only daughter at the time would spend most of the week days in my house. Their daughter was younger by exactly 2 years, being May 22nd and I being May 29th. But the age gap was just that-gap. It didn’t disturb or affect our relationship most of the times.
I was present for her primary school graduation and even then she was a tad too worldly and wise for her own good but those were what made her who she was.
It took a while to develop a relationship with the parents though but even that lack of relationship soon ebbed away. They came to see me a couple of times when I was still in the hostel in junior school with my parents and I began to develop a sense of respect for them as time went on.
Then I moved back home fully and I understood the depth of the relationship between them and my parents. Both families were broke at the same time and my foster sister and I were supposed to be moving on to new phases in our education alongside my elder brother. My elder brother had just begun Caleb University and had drained every one of cash as per starting year. So my foster sister and I were left to hold on before we moved to the new phases in our lives.
What struck me the most about the situation is the fact that they were determined that we would both move together and we wouldn’t leave anyone behind and we didn’t. Together our families were unstoppable.
Then we got to new phases together too. I finished senior secondary just in time to see my foster sister finish junior secondary. I had my graduation a few days before hers and my prom the day after her graduation. We went shopping for prom/graduation together and my foster mom was in charge of that plus our hair and makeup. She was fabulous at making us look expensive.
Everything was fine until we started having money problems in my family. My foster parents tried to bethere for us but I believe that my folks may have made it a tad difficult for them. Egos got hurt, pride got deflated, and it was a mess. My perfect happy family was ripped before my eyes.
The parents may not know this but we had merged. We had gone through too much together to just be friends, we had become family. My family was my family but my foster family was there for me whenever I needed them, no questions asked.
I used to believe I was the luckiest child in the world for having two families that loved me. I had grown to love my foster mother so much especially while she went through the not so easy motions of having her second child. That child had come to mean so much to me, like my own. I was willing to be there for her anytime just as I was for my younger sister. Believe it or not she had been the saving grace on the days leading to my appendicitis operation. She helped me forget my pain even for a few hours. We had developed a bond.
And she was snatched away from me by a rift caused strictly by miscommunication and wrong use of English, sad, right?
I know my parents expected me to pick sides when this “thing”, whatever the thing is started but I refuse to. I wasn’t given much choice in the matter but my foster parents were always in my mind. I prayed for them, and day dreamed about them and talked about them, a lot. I was counting down to the day when I would see them again.
I imagined everyday what my baby would be like, look like as she grew and what my friend would act like, and also how my foster parents would speak. It was all just imagination until I plucked up courage and started to call every now and then.
I guess I broke the final barrier when I went to see them on Sunday and it was the best action I had taken in a while. Now my baby is 3years old, my friend is done with secondary school and my other parents are still very much into each other. But most of all, I found they still love me. And there might still be hope for my big, strange, happy family to be reunited.

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#UnilagAwards (The Immortals); The Official Press Release



The UNILAG awards committee in conjunction with the University Of Lagos Students’ union wishes to inform the entire populace of UNILAG campuses on an ensuing ‘UNILAG Awards’ show slated for October 2, 2015 at the Akoka Campus.
The ‘UNILAG Awards’ is a brainchild of the University of Lagos Students Union propelled by a synergy with the UNILAG Awards Committee comprising students drawn from across various faculties of the Akoka and Idi-Araba campuses. Members of the fifteen-man Committee chaired by Moyosore Adebanjo include:
Tomiwa Talabi, Tolulope Ajayi, Lateef Salvador, Charles Agu, Tobi Etti, Seun Okoya, Jumai Fabuyi, Victor Egbe, Ope Bello, Seun Owolabi, Adeyeye Yosola, Mayowa Alabi, Fisayo Fosudo, and Shomala Isma’il.
After a long hiatus of a decade with the ULSU, the award show returns to achieve its founding aim of recognizing, and according accolades to thriving students and excelling alumni of UNILAG.
This year’s edition is laced with six grouped award categories:

1) IMPACT: Awards which celebrates students who have achieved much in the areas of building relationships/collaborations, creativity and innovation; awards in this category include Mr. & Miss Personality, Best Online Personality, and many more;

2) LEADERSHIP: Awards celebrating students who have exhibited excellence in visionary & collaborative leadership; awards under this category are Best Faculty President, Best Class/Course Rep., and Best Student Leader;

3) INNOVATION & ENHANCEMENT: Awards recognizing students who have innovations/discoveries creating sustainable and innovative results; examples may include, but are not limited to Scientific discovery;

4) OUTSTANDING SOCIAL ENTERPRISE: Awards which recognizes outstanding social enterprises that have offered immense benefits; awards under this include Most Enterprising Student (Male/Female), Best Food Outlets, Best Banking Service, and more;

5) ANNUALS: Awards which awards the most outstanding categories of the year like Student Politician of Year, Sports-man of the Year, Dean of the Year, UNILAG Man of the Year, and many others;

6) ALUMNI RECOGNITION: Awards recognizing successful alumni of the school; accolades under this include Lifetime Achievement Award, Honorary Alumni Award, Corporate Partner Award, and more.

Also, amongst the list is a posthumous award to the past Vice Chancellor Late Professor Adetokunbo Babatunde Sofoluwe.

The nomination process has commenced. The nomination forms for all these sub-categories is slated to reach the various faculties of the school (in Akoka and Idi-Araba) within this week. However, the forms will be availed to solely 25% of each faculty’s population of students as this is the method to be adopted for the nomination process to ensure efficacy, and curb redundancy.

More so, certain categories are not up for competition; such include definite ones like Best CGPA in the School, and the likes.

The awards show is scheduled to hold at the Multipurpose Halls A, B, and C, by 5p.m. on October 2.

Other aligned activities preceding the event include auditions, for ushers and red carpet hosts, open to all UNILAG Students. The scheduled date will be communicated in due time.

Students can follow the ‘UNILAG Awards’ on twitter and instagram (@theunilagawards) for updates.

For more information/enquiries, the ‘UNILAG Awards’ Committee can be contacted via any of the following media:

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why i raped my friends teenage daughter unilaglecturer

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For nine days, Shola (not real name) was in pain. The abdominal pain she endured felt as if a knife got stuck in her, she told Saturday PUNCH.
She was scared but she had no choice but to endure the pain since she couldn’t imagine telling her parents the unimaginable trauma she had been subjected to that led to the pains she was going through.
“How could I face them? How could I tell them that the man they handed me over to, to help process my admission, had raped me?” Shola said.
But then, much as she tried, she couldn’t continue hiding her ordeal, especially when the pains had become unbearable. Shola’s parents eventually got to know what their daughter had passed through in the quest of trying to become an undergraduate.
Eighteen-year-old Shola is one of the numerous hopeful candidates, wishing to secure admission into the University of Lagos. But her score of 211 in the Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination fell short of the requirement for Mass Communication, which was her choice.
Her father, who resided in Abesan Estate in Ipaja area of Lagos, had done all he could to ensure that her daughter would become a university student this year but all his efforts seemed to be futile.
“Someone told me to send her UTME registration number. He checked on the university website and said she was not eligible. Not convinced, I went to the school myself to check and it was the same problem.
I had to start making calls to other universities where she could secure admission and someone told me she they could be helped to gain admission into the Olabisi Onabanjo University with that score.
“As soon as the UTME result was released around May, I informed a friend of mine who lives within the estate, who is a lecturer at UNILAG. I took my daughter to him and he promised that when it was time for the post-UTME examination, he would help her out with the process.”
The friend Shola’s father mentioned is Dr. Akin Baruwa, a lecturer in the Department of Accounting, UNILAG, who is also a chairman of one of the community development committees of Abesan Estate.
Shola’s father explained that when she realised that her result was not being accepted as eligible for Mass Communication, he went back to Baruwa on July 22, 2015 and the lecturer told him to bring his daughter the following morning so he could take her to campus and see how he could help.
“He said they had to take off very early the following morning. I did not suspect anything unusual about that timing because I trusted him. By 4am, I roused my daughter. We prepared and I took her to Baruwa’s house. I did not opt to follow them because I trusted him. I did not imagine that anything untoward could happen,” he said.
Baruwa and Shola took off from Abesan about 5am. She would later return home by 11am. His daughter was noticeably moody as she came home. Two hours earlier, Baruwa had called the father and told him that he had done all he could but that it did not seem her admission would be possible.
“When he told me that, I believed he had done all he could and told my daughter to come back home,” he said.
But it was not the same Shola that home that came back. She was moody and noticeably quiet. She went straight to her room and locked the door.
In company with child rights activist, Mrs. Esther Ogwu, whom the case was reported to by the family, PUNCH spoke with Shola in private to give details of what actually happened in Baruwa’s office that day.
It was obvious the girl was trying hard to stay composed. While she spoke, her right hand would go to her lower abdomen occasionally. When asked about it, she explained that she was still feeling some pain, which had reduced a lot since she got treatment.
Shola said on Thursday, July 23, 2015, as her father handed her over to the lecturer, she still did not suspect anything until they got to around Maryland.
“While I was inside the car, he started to touch my hair and rub my head. I was very surprised and I brushed off his hand. He never tried it again till we got to UNILAG,” Shola alleged.
According to her, while they were on the way, Baruwa was showing her different parts of town, telling her about places she did not know.
She alleged:
“While we were on the way, he asked if I go out at all and I told him I don’t usually go out. And he would show me a place and say ‘This is Maryland o. You may not know since you don’t go out.’ Then he took me to the Yaba College of Technology. He drove inside and showed me the place. We later proceeded to UNILAG.
When we got to his office, it was about 6.30am. The offices in the building were deserted. He said he liked to be early to avoid traffic. He told me to sit on the couch in his office.
I noticed he was restless. He would stand and go outside sometimes. He asked if I wanted anything, I told him I was fine. He put on the television; I told him I was okay. He put on the air conditioner and I told him I did not want that.
He had already heated water and made Coffee, which he offered to me. I told him I was okay and really did not need that. He then put the hot Coffee on the table. Later, out of respect, I took the cup and sipped a little. I started to feel drowsy not long after that. I did not know why.”
According to Shola’s narration, Baruwa later took her to see a female official in another building who examined her documents and explained further that there was little that could be done on her admission.
Baruwa reportedly said she might have to opt for diploma.
Shola claimed that when they went back to his office, the lecturer kept her document on his table.
She said:
“He kept standing and moving around the office. Later, he went outside and when he came back inside, he locked the door and kept the key on his table. I did not know what was happening.
A moment later, he told me to pick up a paper for him beside the couch. As I bent down to pick up the paper, he pushed me into a corner of the couch and held me down as he forcibly removed my trousers and underwear.
PUNCH asked at this point if Shola made any attempt to shout to alert anybody nearby.
She claimed that she actually screamed but that the way he held her down did not allow her voice to be as audible as she had wanted it to be.
Shola claimed:
“If people were around the office, they would have heard me shout. He held me down, and pulled down my trousers and underwear. I screamed and begged him to leave me alone but he did not.
After he had his way, he released me. As soon as I pulled up my trousers, I grabbed the keys to the door and rushed out while he was dressing up. He was walking behind me as I walked downstairs from his office. He said nothing as I walked away crying. He later went back.”
Shola’s father said he had been able to secure a place for her to write her post-UTME examination for an admission into OOU but the young girl has refused to go.
When Shola was asked why she refused to go, she said:
“How can I be sure that this same thing would not happen there? I don’t know anybody there. If it happens again, where would I run to?”
PUNCH tracked down Dr. Baruwa a day after speaking with Shola and he gave his version of the encounter.
According to him, he indeed had a sexual encounter with Shola but it was “consensual.”
The lecturer, who seemed to be in his early 40s, said he made the mistake of not doing enough to resist the temptation of ‘sleeping’ with Shola.
Speaking in the front of his house out of earshot of his wife and two children, Dr. Baruwa said:
“I swear to God that the girl agreed to everything that happened. She was a chatty girl, who did not show any shyness.
It is true that I took her to YABATECH and showed her places. What is not true is that I deliberately took off from home because of any plan to do anything bad to her. I took off from home that early to avoid traffic.
When she was in my office, she was the one telling me to be free with her. I realised that I needed to lie down a little and did not want my shirt to be rumpled. When I pulled it off, she even told me not to mind her presence that since it was my office, I could do whatever I wanted.
When we first got to the office, she lay on my chest and was even playing with my manhood. That was why I could not resist it. After we came back from seeing the woman who was supposed to help with her admission, she was about to go when I told her to give me a hug. It was that which now led to the actual sexual encounter.
When I realised that I could not resist her, I had to tell her to let me put on a condom. The truth is that, while I was putting on a condom, she stood by and waited. I did not actually penetrate. When she was saying ‘it’s enough, it’s enough’ and complaining that her tummy had started hurting her, I stopped.”
Baruwa explained that Shola’s father had sent a cryptic text message to him (days later when he learnt of what happened to his daughter), saying that he had learnt of what he did to his daughter.
“I know I betrayed his trust but nobody would understand it was consensual. I would have reached out to him to beg him if I think it would solve the problem,” he said.
When told that Shola went through more than a week of excruciating abdominal pain, Baruwa explained that if Shola left him the day of the encounter with any sign of hurt, he would have reached out to her to find out how she was doing.
Two days after this chat with Baruwa, he was arrested by the police and the case is being investigated at the Isokoko Police Division, Agege, Lagos.
The case has also been reported at the Office of the Public Defender under the Lagos State Ministry of Justice. The Director of the OPD, Mrs. Omotola Rotimi, said the case would be followed to its logical conclusion.
Director of the Esther Child Rights Foundation, Esther Ogwu, a social worker handling the case, said when the case was first reported to her, the health of the girl was her immediate concern.
She said:
“I had to refer them to the Mirabel Sexual Assault Referral Centre in Lagos so that she could get comprehensive treatment. This case is just another reason for girls and young women to be cautious of the issue of sexual assault.
I believe this lecturer had been doing this in the past. It is necessary for girls to be aware and know what to do when in a potentially dangerous situation where they may be assaulted.
I don’t expect him (the lecturer) to admit that he raped her. I knew he would say it was consensual, but I suspect that this is not the first time he would do such thing. Let the law take its course because we don’t know how many other girls are being saved because this case is coming out to the public.”
Baruwa was arraigned before an Ikeja Magistrate’s Court, Lagos on Thursday. He has been remanded at the Kirikiri Prison.

Tuesday, 4 August 2015

MY TOP TEN MONDAYS: why unilag students cheat


 
All happy relationships are the same but each unhappy relationship is unique in its own way and this is deep. You must have heard the saying, “all guys are unfaithful”. It comes mostly after another popular saying which is, “all guys are the same”. Anyways it’s only a girl who has sampled many men that can boldly make this accusation. Truth is, men lie and women lie, men cheat and women cheat and Infidelity isn’t gender specific.

Over the years due to social stigma and other society factors like inequality, men have been portrayed as dogs, beings who can’t suppress their sexual urge and cheats. This has been in play for a while and most people have gotten used to a man cheating and this has taken the sting out of it. With feminism, feminist and the uproar of various gender equality advocates, people are starting to accept that females can express their sexual urge and desires same way men do without any condemnation whatsoever. So these days you find women even beating men at their own game of Infidelity [laughs]…

My top ten today is on the reasons why students in the university of Lagos cheat. I’m sure you would be able to relate to some of the reasons I’ll give and some of you may even think I’m twisted or perhaps maybe I’ve lost it. Anyways, this should be fun.

1. Flavors



I love ice-cream and I can’t be faithful to one flavor. I tried to start a relationship with chocolate once and it didn’t quite end well. Don’t get me wrong, chocolate is my best flavor, and my one true love and I would never love another as much as I love her but everytime I went to the kitchen fridge to see and spend some time with my baby I see vanilla, strawberry, banana and some half cast flavors and I get tempted. They all look so appealing and beautifully dressed with syrup and colorful toppings. I resisted for long but I eventually broke my baby’s heart.

You’re a unilag guy, you’re dating a girl and you get to see all sorts of other hot ladies with different shades and colors. It’s only a matter of time before you give one a try. Same applies for girls too. There are many good looking guys in school, some are way better and richer than the dude you love. In some cases it’s not like you don’t love your partner but it’s just the thrill that comes with trying something new or different that has the upper hand. Like the saying “new is always better”….

2. Trophy boys



Trophy boys are always good looking and attractive. They are boys who see girls as trophies they must posses. They build a reputation for themselves on their girl getting abilities. They see a good looking girl, they go after her, get her, smash her, add her to the trophy collection and on to the next. They call them ‘sure boys’, ‘bad guys’ and so on. A trophy boy would kiss and tell just to show his fans how good he is at the game. And don’t get it twisted, there are also girls who collect trophies too. They see good looking guys as trophies they must acquire and they brag about how many hot guys they have had their way with. Dating a trophy girl or guy would definitely get your heart broken.

I know a trophy boy that brags about having more hoes than a commercial agricultural farmer.

3. Self gratification vs intimacy



The balance of self gratification and intimacy in a relationship is very vital but the balance is a myth as one must always be sacrificed for the other. As humans, we all have a natural desire for self-gratification. Good food, good sex, little work, lots of sleep and for some others porn, video games, hanging out with friends, the strip club etc. As humans, we also all have a natural desire for intimacy, to feel loved by somebody else and to feel as though we are sharing our lives with somebody. These two often contradict themselves because most times to get the intimacy you desire or your partner wants you have to sacrifice your self gratification. This could be as simple as watching a movie u don’t really like, going to a party you don’t fancy, stopping some habits that give you bliss and keeping up appearances and appointments you would rather skip. And could be as deep as staying faithful when you would rather screw around if you’re naturally a flirt.

If a person values self-gratification more than the intimacy they gain from a relationship, then they will stop sacrificing for the relationship and are likely to end up cheating. If a person values the intimacy they gain from a relationship more than self-gratification, then they will willingly sacrifice some of their self-gratification to remain faithful.

Think of it like a scale. On one side you have self-gratification and on the other you have intimacy. If at any point the self-gratification side outweighs the intimacy side, well, then you get a cheater.

4. The bliss from secrets



There is this bliss that comes with keeping secrets. Thanks to movies and social media, having a secret love affair is something twisted and cool. They’ve taken the sting outer cheating by changing the name. Before it was called Infidelity, cheating, fornication but these days it’s sugar coated with titles like an affair, a secret and most people won’t mind having one.

I know guys that have girlfriends in different faculties. Some girls have boyfriends in yaba tech and even college of education [laughs]…

5. The revenge



Some girls are really crazy and cheating on them would get you in so much trouble. They could smash your car, poison you or even screw your best friend or brother.

Most girls in unilag have been made to cheat due to the Infidelity of their boyfriends. Babes don’t even bother crying or wallowing in self pity when they find out you’ve been cheating. They just look for ways to get even and counter cheating seems to be one of the most effective method of getting the required revenge. They won’t break up with you, they tell you everything is okay and plot behind your back on how to pay you back in a similar currency. I know of an MTH girl that screwed a boys junior brother because he cheated on her. The babe was really hot so I can’t blame the junior brother for not turning her down…. Turn down for what!!!!!!…

6. Thirst



I always say this is a thirsty generation, no one seems to be ever satisfied or contented. We all want more. More money, more sex, more clothes, more partners, more food, more more more….

New hall is the official unilag thirst zone. Girls hanging outside indirectly hoping for guys to holla at them. Guys walking around looking for girls to quench their chronic thirst. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is in Newhall or hangs out there then you ain’t safe. Some unilag boys are far from thirsty, they are hungry suffering from sex starvation and would Chao any girl that gives a green light.

The guys there see every girl as a bottle of water just waiting to quench their inbuilt thirst. There are the cheap girls aka pure water babes and the expensive ones aka champagne chics. So either ways you’ll find what suits your pocket and like the sprite Commercial “obey your thirst”.

7. Dating virgins



Most guys are not virgins and even if they are they would rather say they are not and there is no way to check that. Girls who are virgins and go into relationships have a very high rate of getting cheated on. Obviously you would tell a unilag boy that you are a virgin and if he dates you there would be no sex and he would tell you “no problem”. He only said so just to win your heart hoping that at some point in the relationship he would persuade you to give it up. Some virgins give it up and regret it because the dude would still cheat eventually [laughs]…. Those few ones that hold steadfast and keep their legs closed get cheated on like jamb exam haha.

The human body is not firewood and there is limit to which a guy can withstand the urge for sex. If you don’t give him something to kill his appetite he would go and get something to eat outside.

8. Long distance relationship



Imagine dating a babe in honours and you stay at jaja. That’s a long distance relationship. You won’t have the time to be keeping up appearances and I’m sure she won’t also. These leaves her vulnerable to bio Baku boys that are close by and have time for her while the guy in jaja would be comfortable meeting girls in moremi who are close by.

9. Habits



Some boys and girls in unilag just have the bad habit of cheating and being unfaithful. It’s in their genes and DNA strand to be that way. You cant change them that’s how they are.

They cheat in everything in life. Cheat in exams, blood test and even their relationships.

10. Cheats



Some just cheat because they want to. For no reason at all. They just want to know what it’s like to cheat and this ones are the most annoying tho.

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Betting on campus by smith



God does not play dice-bankers do.
    One third of every student of University Of Lagos (UNILAG) are involved in this (whether legally or illegally, on campus or off)- betting on lottery, card games, small-stakes games and sports. This is the number one thing right now that has taken over spending for ladies in all the Universities in Nigeria. Not only University students are involved in this, but also Secondary school students in all over Nigeria and also Primary school students are involved even monthly workers.
     Nowadays, students prefer to stake their money on bet, than to buy text books, or to eat. They would say it is the fastest way to get money, the bible says the love of money is the root of all evil; Jesus also went as far as chasing money changers and those gambling from the temple, This is an example of how wrong betting is. Universities often take students alcohol and drug problems seriously they are typically less aggressive in dealing with gambling addiction. Betting can turn into a dangerous two-way street when you least expect it. Weird things happen suddenly,  and your life can go all to pieces. Gambling is an addiction once you are involved there is no way going back except God's intervention. I know of a student in UNILAG, an Engineering student a first class to be precise who won a Sport bet of two million naira, what he did first of all was to defer his admission and stopped coming to school because of the money, a brilliant first class
 student yet to be seen at the department, rumors were carried that he is in their village. Another UNILAG student at the Science department, after collecting his pocket money   He would use half of it to play sport-bet and after one week he is stranded looking for ways (lies) to collect another money. Internet access gave rise to a worldwide online betting industry estimated to exceed $40 billion dollars in wagers a year.
   Gambling has taken over Nigerian youth. If our youths are to be saved this has to be eradicated. Attention should be drawn to this by raising awareness on campus and everywhere in Nigeria about gambling addiction.

Smith Michael
UNILAG 200lvl
08161144432

Saturday, 1 August 2015

CAMPUS ROMANCE: A Father’s Advice To His Son On Women And Marriage (A MUST READ)

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My son, lend me your ears, the kind of wife you marry would determine the kind of life you’d have after marriage. I mean, if you’re a happy single man and you marry hell as a wife, your life will be in hell. To buttress my point, remember what Shakespeare said, “A bad marriage will make you a philosopher”. Take your time to marry right so you don’t end up in a bad marriage. Here are the few things you should consider.

1. Not all beautiful women are ‘beautiful’ wives Does that sound strange? Beauty doesn’t make
a woman a good wife. There are many beautiful women that are bad wives. Don’t dwell on her beauty, look beyond her container to see what she’s made of. Beauty will fade but her virtues and innate potentials would outlive her beauty.

2. You can’t know the right woman if you lean on your understanding Most of you guys think you can know the right woman to marry by adopting all the ‘means’ you know. Likes of catching her young, becoming her friend cannot help you if you neglect the place of God . Only God who knows the right person can lead you to the right woman if you wouldn’t lean on your understanding.

3. Don’t be carried away by a woman’s personality let God lead you That she can sing, she’s nice, caring and all those good personalities that women have isn’t still good enough to make her your suitable help meet. You may not be a perfect blend for her if you marry her personality. Don’t be carried away or follow the philosophical teachings regarding marriage. Going for what you want isn’t enough to guarantee you the right spouse. Relax! Be calm and let God take the lead.

4. You need patience to live with a woman, love is not enough Do you think I would have being able to stay this long with your mother without patience? One characteristics of love is patience. The love many of you profess is impatient. No matter how you’d describe her beauty or personality,
without patience, you can’t live peacefully and happily with her. It is not everything a woman says that you should react to and it’s not everything she reacts to that would make you loose your mind.
Women have vocal strength but as a man, you must have emotional stability to absorb it including her weaknesses. There are times we fight, quarrel, have misunderstandings and sometimes I asked myself “Why did I marry her?” But the God factor, love and patience held us together.

5. It’s only a man that can leave to cleave to his wife, boys can’t There’s a big difference between a man and a boy. Boys play, they become players but men ‘mean’ business and they become real men. Boys are tied to their mother’s apron, playful mentality and display acts of irresponsibility.They’re not strong enough to make decisions for themselves and be responsible for their actions. Grow to be a man. Don’t move with ‘boys’ but learn from real men. Real men care for their wives but boys care for themselves. Once you’re married, cleave to your wife and don’t cling to any woman – your mother or female friends.

6. Your relationship can only work as long as you’re willing to make it work Marriage is like a house, it takes two to build it. You must do the things that would make you build your house firmly such as having a good foundation (God), love, patience, wisdom, understanding and so on. If you’re not willing to have a successful marriage, a magic wand won’t make it successful. Do your best to make it successful despite any challenges that would come your way. There are no exit route in marriage, once you’re in it, only death can do you part. So, take your time to marry right and let God guide you before you make any move.

7. Be a man A man is not defined by the six pack abs he has on his chest or by the sexual strength he has. A man is known by His major source of influence.
– God.Be spiritually connected to God so you can lead your wife and she’ll be able to look up to you.
Never wish your wife to be more spiritually sound than you, you’ll only be relegating your
spiritual position. Get a good source of income. Be emotionally stable and be mentally balanced. It takes a woman to build a home and it takes wisdom for the man to protect the builder. It’s never difficult to live with a woman if you marry the right one. You cannot love the wrong woman and would expect to have a successful relationship. Work on yourself and ensure that you have a good relationship with God, it’ll help you so much in life. Don’t trivialize these truth, keep it in your right hand and also share with your friends.

love is not enough Do you think I would have being able to stay this long with your mother without patience?
One characteristics of love is patience. The love many of you profess is impatient. No matter
how you’d describe her beauty or personality, without patience, you can’t live peacefully and happily with her. It is not everything a woman says that you should react to and it’s not everything she
reacts to that would make you loose your mind. Women have vocal strength but as a man, you must have emotional stability to absorb it including her weaknesses. There are times we fight, quarrel, have misunderstandings and sometimes I asked myself “Why did I marry her?” But the God factor, love and patience held us together.